Have you ever had someone say something to you during a difficult situation that you know was said with good intent but came across as hurtful or uncomfortable? How something is said can make all the difference. Knowing what to say when someone is ill can be challenging. Below are tips on what to say and what not to say:
What to Say
- I have been thinking about you.
- You have been on my mind.
- It’s OK to rest.
- I’m right here with you.
- Rest if you need to.
- It’s OK to close your eyes if you are sleepy.
- It’s OK to cry.
If you are struggling with what to say when your visit is over, instead of saying ‘I’ll see you next week,” say “until next time” or ”until we see each other again.”
What to Say to a Family Member
- He/she is so fortunate to have you.
- You are doing a great job caring for your _______.
What Not to Say
- Things will get better.
- My brother had this same disease, and he died within six months, etc.
- If you just eat a little something, you will feel better.
- This is God’s will/plan.
- God never gives a person more than they can handle.
- Everything will be OK.
Sitting in silence with your loved one may be all they need. Many times, the person is comforted by just having someone present.